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June 26, 1978 Issue

Girl

By Jamaica Kincaid
June 19, 1978

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W
ash the white clothes on Monday and put them on the stone heap; wash the color clothes on Tuesday and put them on the

clothesline to dry; don’t walk bare-head in the hot sun; cook pumpkin fritters in very hot sweet oil; soak your little cloths

right after you take them off; when ing cotton to make yourself a nice blouse, be sure that it doesn’t have gum in it,

because that way it won’t hold up well after a wash; soak salt �sh overnight before you cook it; is it true that you sing

benna in Sunday school?; always eat your food in such a way that it won’t turn someone else’s stomach; on Sundays try to walk like

a lady and not like the slut you are so bent on becoming; don’t sing benna in Sunday school; you mustn’t speak to wharf-rat boys,

not even to give directions; don’t eat fruits on the street—�ies will follow you; but I don’t sing benna on Sundays at all and never in

Sunday school; this is how to sew on a button; this is how to make a buttonhole for the button you have just sewed on; this is how to

hem a dress when you see the hem coming down and so to prevent yourself from looking like the slut I know you are so bent on

becoming; this is how you iron your father’s khaki shirt so that it doesn’t have a crease; this is how you iron your father’s khaki pants

so that they don’t have a crease; this is how you grow okra—far from the house, because okra tree harbors red ants; when you are

growing dasheen, make sure it gets plenty of water or else it makes your throat itch when you are eating it; this is how you sweep a

corner; this is how you sweep a whole house; this is how you sweep a yard; this is how you smile to someone you don’t like too

much; this is how you smile to someone you don’t like at all; this is how you smile to someone you like completely; this is how you

set a table for tea; this is how you set a table for dinner; this is how you set a table for dinner with an important guest; this is how

you set a table for lunch; this is how you set a table for breakfast; this is how to behave in the presence of men who don’t know you

very well, and this way they won’t recognize immediately the slut I have warned you against becoming; be sure to wash every day,

even if it is with your own spit; don’t squat down to play marbles—you are not a boy, you know; don’t pick people’s �owers—you

might catch something; don’t throw stones at blackbirds, because it might not be a blackbird at all; this is how to make a bread

pudding; this is how to make doukona; this is how to make pepper pot; this is how to make a good medicine for a cold; this is how

to make a good medicine to throw away a child before it even becomes a child; this is how to catch a �sh; this is how to throw back

a �sh you don’t like, and that way something bad won’t fall on you; this is how to bully a man; this is how a man bullies you; this is

how to love a man, and if this doesn’t work there are other ways, and if they don’t work don’t feel too bad about giving up; this is

how to spit up in the air if you feel like it, and this is how to move quick so that it doesn’t fall on you; this is how to make ends

meet; always squeeze bread to make sure it’s fresh; but what if the baker won’t let me feel the bread?; you mean to say that after all you

are really going to be the kind of woman who the baker won’t let near the bread? ♦

Published in the print edition of the June 26, 1978, issue.

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